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Math calculates odds for a marriage

"In a report at the national meeting of the American Association for the Advancement of Science, Gottman said studies by his Relationship Research Institute and the University of Washington show that how couples resolve differences is a key factor in whether a marriage will last."

Basically, there are three types of relationships:

The Passionate
This is a volatile relationship where the couple regularly experiences heightened moods. These are more prone to the "I hate you" and "I love you" syndromes.

The Avoiders
This relationship thrives on not hurting each others feelings by not saying much to each other. They may be unemotional and distant, but they do tend to endure

The Validators
These are couples who speak and listen to each other. They respect each others opinion and only argue occasionally (BTW, this is the type of person I am).

The Problem
Mathematically, these scientists measure a point scale for each person in the relationship. If the two don't measure up to the same category of the other person, they will most likely get a divorce.

When the mathematical marriage calculations are made, there's also a neutral point. If there is "a steep descent on the chart below the neutral point, predicts a couple will divorce within 5.6 years after marriage." If there is "a more gentle descending slope below the neutral point, suggesting an “emotional disengagement,” predicts a divorce within 16.2 years after marriage".

Final Thought
As technology grows, it tends to make the trend of love in a more scientific approach. But, unfortunately/fortunately we fall in love too quickly. In the end though, really know who you're marrying...you just might end up in a divorce quicker than you think. At least these scientific dating methods allow you to learn about your partner in a quicker pace.